Monday, December 2, 2013

So much frustration.

I have done slightly better today with food at least I'm not a million calories over like  I usually am.  But I'm incredibly unhappy.  I'm unhappy that I haven't been making my weight loss a priority.  I'm unhappy with the situation I'm in at work.  I hate my full time job and my boss is driving me crazy.  Some of my staff are driving me crazy. And the staff I actually like are all leaving.  I can't find a job to save my life it seems but maybe I'm not trying hard enough.  Maybe I need to look at Affinity or Aurora.  Maybe being loyal to the companies I've given my time and effort to the last several years was a mistake.

I'm not 100% sure of what I want to do for my Masters Degree.  I had imagined myself for a long time as someone that would be a great Psychologist.   Getting my Psy D seemed the best option for me.  But while I love counseling people, I'm not sure I enjoy this line of work.  I have this image of myself that I want to get to.  Thin, professional, knows how to party but smart as a whip.  I really enjoy working at Thedacare and I can see myself moving up, being a business-woman working in healthcare in an administrative role.  I like the idea of working in the 222 building near where I live.  And Oshkosh has a degree that should help me move forward in that respect.  But will it?  I have a bachelor's degree and 5 years of experience and I can't get a full time job with Thedacare to save my life!  Maybe getting that Masters will do NOTHING.  Maybe I'll waste 3 more years and get nowhere.  And I'll have to start over working on a Masters in Psych or Social Work and I'll get a Psy D at 40 and have mountains of student debt and still never get hired or promoted.

What do these fucking companies want!?  What do I want!? And will I ever get there? 

MInd over matter.  If you want it you've got to work for it.  I've worked.  Hard.  But now it's time to work harder and get what I want.  No more pleasing these mother fuckers that waste my time, talents, and effort.  No more swallowing my feelings with chinese food and cake.  Bring on the drinks though.  A girl deserves a good beverage here and there.

Sunday, December 1, 2013

#1 Fuck Up in the world!

I don't know what the fuck is wrong with me lately.  I can't keep my eating under control or get myself to workout like I should.  Today I feel awful and huge.  I had a plan and I didn't stick with it.  I felt empty all day.  So I fucked up as usual.  I need to  get a handle on this.  I will get a handle on this. I swear on my life and all that is holy. 

Saturday, November 2, 2013

Post 2 Year Goal Evaluation and New Goals for 2016

In May 2011 I wrote up a 2 year plan. I revisted the plan 8 months later in January 2012. It is now November 2013. So lets see where I am at with my plans. Once again I'm doing a breakdown of my 4 main areas of concern in my life.

Education

In May 2011 I did a breakdown of what it was going to take for me to graduate from UWO with a double major. At the time I didn't realize how much money I had already put into school and I would soon be running out of lending options. So some sacrifices had to be made to this goal. I put a loan on my car and borrowed money from my grandmother to finish on time. I decided to simply get my Bachelor of Science in Psychology because it was the fastest route to graduation for me due to my past emphasis on Psychology. I did pretty well my last two years. I had made it part of my goal to graduate with a 3.0 GPA. I was .1 point under my goal, but I was on the honor roll and well above the 3.0 range for while finishing my degree over the next two years. I've decided to call this goal successful. I have my Bachelor's. Regardless of what I did, the subjects of study I decided on will need post-graduate studies. I have a good chunk of a Bachelor of Human Services under my belt, and my degree is EXTREMELY well rounded. I think I did well, if not exactly how I had planned it to be.

Career

In May 2011 I expressed interest in either promotion at Agape or within Thedacare. The job market has not been particularly promising. Every application I have submitted for full-time work with Thedacare has been denied. Usually I'm told via notification that there are other applicants with stronger qualifications. It has made me extremely frustrated. I have also felt under-appreciated at Agape, but I love my clients and my staff for the most part. I have an interview for an Interim RCM position next Wednesday. Part of me is terrified. Part of me is really hopeful and excited. I'm doing some interview research using Social Work Questions and a background to begin to prepare. If I nail this and am hired, AND prove myself over the next few months I will have made my career goal, and I won't consider it late because it is within 2013 that this will happen and and this wasn't completely up to me as far as when the opportunity would arise within the companies I have established myself.

Weightloss and Fitness

This one was my biggest failure. But what else could I expect with the type of goals I put on myself in TWO YEARS! Most people don't push themselves as hard as I did. I worked full time, plus picked up hours at a part time job. I attended school full time and actually did VERY well with my GPA. It's not an excuse to me. It just wasn't my time to focus on this goal. So, my goal was to get down to 163 pounds. I was not yet sure at the time how I planned to get to where I wanted to be. Right now as things are progressing and getting a little crazy with work and financial issues, as well as my health problems (female in nature typically)I'm beginning to see a way out. But that I will talk about in the 2nd part of this post. So for now, I'm at, well I don't really know. Probably approx 225. I'm not over 227 or even my top weight of 230. But my goal is definitely not achieved. Perhaps I should just be happy that seeing those numbers doesn't break me everyday like it used to. It doesn't make me crazy and it doesn't define my worth anymore. It's just something I want.

Personal

I can't even tell you how happy I am with this one. I am NOT engaged. But he finally said "I love you." He tells me willingly, and on his own accord nearly every day, either verbally or by text. This was such a break through. I waited 4 years to hear those words. I guess I'm willing to wait a little longer for the other stuff. Especially because if he ever decided to make us "til death do we part" I want to be at my best physically AND emotionally. I think emotionally I'm there. But I want to look good for his proposal and our day, should it ever come. I think we both deserve that. I'm not being so quiet now about what my hope was or is. And he's definitely a difficult person at MANY times. But he is perfect for me. We will always have things we'll need to work on. As far as our house goes (technically his, but whatever) I did put in new flooring. I also put in new counter tops. The living room looks pretty freaking nice. And really who needs book shelves when I have a nook that I can sideload pretty much any book I want? I got us a bedroom set that I really like, but it could use a new mattress (paid 300 for the whole set. It's pretty!) I painted and decorated. But a house always needs things fixed. I wanted to set up an exercise room but have changed that to a basement "girl cave" for all my projects and things. It's about 1/3 of the way done. So, yeah....BOOM, I feel successful in this area too, especially because of one area I didn't focus on in this section. Friends. Family. I have fantastic, beautiful friends. I feel extremely established, happy and involved within my own part of the Appleton community. I have people that I absolutely love and they feel the same about me. We all help each other. And sometimes there is drama, but for the most part its a beautiful melding of my friends and family. Ryan is slowly integrating himself as well and actually being around for some of it. But we also feel pretty secure out on our own without each other, something I never really thought I could achieve. So, I'm happy. This part was more than I could have hoped for and so different from what I saw. I also have puppies. My Tela, 2 year old Golden Retriever and I now have a 16 week old german shep/lab mix that we dubbed Timber. It's AWESOME. Then of course in January of 2012 I tacked on another area.


Financial

Goal of being debt free minus my school loans. I'm closer than you'd think. Last credit card payment on my really big nasty card happened in October. My mom has a card that I don't know much about with my name on it. My credit score isn't great but I think it will be better at the end of of the next plan. I do owe my grandma and have a loan out on my car. I think though that those small issues will work out as I need them to be worked out. It's not something I need to focus on. I'll tell you in a minute my new focus. NOW....on to the 3 year plan. I'm picking this number arbitrarily. Most people do a 5 year plan, but I don't care. I decided to do a 2, so might as well finish it into 5 years now. So......

In 2016

Education

It's right now, Nov 2nd, 2013 and I am preparing to pay for and schedule and prepare for the GRE. With this, once I get my score, I will be submitting all materials for a Masters in Social Work program that is hosted by UWGB and UWO. I think I want to get the degree from UWGB just to change things up a little. I want all materials submitted by Mid December because applicatons close in January. I will have to look further into when I would start, but I'm guessing it will be at least 3 years of study. So 3 years from now I should be finishing it up. At least well into completing it. I had thought I wanted a Psy D, but after I never did my internship thing with my Psych professor, I decided that pursuing this Masters Degree would be nice. It would suit me and my need for variety. I'm a jack (jill) of all trades, and that's exactly what Social Work needs. I don't know a ton about Grad School, but I want to do well, get great grades, at least a 3.0 or above, and be involved somehow in some type of extra-curricular within Social Work.

Career

Well, I don't know. I think I'll be a caseworker. I think I might like to work with the elderly, disabled, and mentally ill. I don't really plan to work with children, but I will if it is necessary. It really interested me that Social Workers work for Thedacare. But I could also, perhaps, have the opportunity to do some type of Services Coordinator position, maybe not at Agape, but I think I'd like to get more involved with the lobbyists and health care reform. I'm not sure. I usually have so many projects going it's hard to say. Perhaps it's best if I hope and work towards these ideas, and focus on the education and really WORK, especially if (when!) I get my RCM position.

Weightloss and Fitness

I hope I'm not setting myself up somehow for failure by keeping this as the third spot. But I like continuity in writing. Since Career is kind of pre-destined right now (keep your fingers crossed!) I'm hoping that my one full-time job will take care of financial issues and I will then have more time to focus on making exercise a priority, I want to shoot for 5x a week, but a goal of 3x a week. I am going to start attending kettlebell class on Tuesdays and body flow on Thursday nights. Other days I will swim (more reward based, to relax rather than work out hard) or to do Zombies, Run!. I will still walk with my friends when weather makes it possible. I will work on Timber's leash skills which will also take walking. AND I will still be working on Tela's leash skills. I hope she will be along with me for Zombies, Run most times that I do it. I will start this workout regimen (we'll call it that I guess) on the Week of NOV 17. I'll continue tracking and being more accurate with calorie counting using a scale. I will minimze out to eat nights to focus on healthy cooking in the evenings. I will also plan when we're going to have treats. This needs to be sustainable, long term, life change. Exercise that I will enjoy. Foods that I like, and yet keep me full, healthy and in a caloric deficit. SO...not three years from now, but forever, I will be working on my healthy lifestyle skills. I'm setting a goal of 31 lbs by my birthday on 2014, but it's not really a goal. It's more a wish. But I don't really care as much as I used to. I care, I want it, but trying the way I have, and not really focusing on each component isn't getting me anywhere. I know its really just as simple as calories in/calories out. I don't have any major health problems or a thyroid issue (that I'm aware of). I have years of bad habits to overcome. It wasn't going to happen overnight. So 3 years from now, I will be at, or below my goal weight. I will have a body fat percentage between 20 and 25 %. I will happily be doing active things, like my classes, and walking and gardening and whatever else interests me. And I will have a really nice set of recipes for healthy but super tasty meals, as well as have learned when and how to integrate the naughty stuff occasionally, probably 1 to 2x a month for OTE, and maybe a weekly treat after working out or when stress has me in a bind. I won't eat for emotional support. That is what my friends and boyfriend are for, even if I think they can't or won't. They will. It is my own self-esteem issue and need to always please people that made me think they couldn't or wouldn't want to deal with me when I need to unload.

Personal

I want to be married. I really do. Like I want my wedding to be in October of 2016. I want to be engaged for 2 years before that, saving money and getting the details down. I'm afraid of changes in my circle of friends. I love everyone so much right now, how it is (even with the little issues) that I don't want people to move or change. I have, perhaps, an over-abundance right now (it is stressful sometimes) but these are the people I want there when Ryan and I finally tie the knot. I'm beginning to fantasize and plan for that day. Saving things on Pinterest. Thinking about bands. The band I wanted to play is planning to break up or go on hiatus "indefinitely". This made me cry. And yet it opened the door for me to mention to Ryan that that was what I wanted, and if he waits forever we may miss out on more things. Really, I think it made him think more deeply about where we are going. He hasn't really told me his plans though. Never the less,I'm hoping the band will be willing to reunite if only just for us. We've been avid followers and fans.

I no longer feel that I must have a best friend. I have many very close friends, people that I really feel connected to. So having one best friend doesn't even make sense anymore. Not even Ryan has that. I think in someways we are growing to be that person for each other. I demand intimacy, which he is slowly becoming more comfortable with. I also demand romance, which I'm trying to get him interested in again (some success so far).

I have my puppies and the next three projects over the next three years (aim for 2 out of 3) will be getting rid of the carpet in the spare, office, and master bedroom, along with painting the office (green?)updating the bathroom, and putting in a fence. Then the very necessary (but Ryan will need to deal with this one) getting our house up to code for electricity... Then there are the minor projects. Reupholster and paint the sunroom furniture. Fix Gazebo and put up curtains and make it comfy in there. Get my garden looking decent. I plan to have the "girl cave" done in the next month or so. I want to focus on my hobbies. Music, art, (art includes, sewing, home updating and decorating, drawing, jewelry, and whatever else I decide is a creative endeavor). I want to build a hobby or two with Ryan as well. Not sure what they will be. But something.

Financial

No loans or any credit card balances over 300.00/month EXCEPT, I will no doubt have a car loan for a new(er) car. I'd like this to happen in 2014 once I'm well established at work. Probably a 2010 or newer Rav4 or something VERY similar. Love that thing. We'll see what I can afford in a few months. I am getting tired of typing up this stuff, so for now, I'll post this and see what some people think. I'll no doubt do some tweaking a few months from now.

Sunday, June 23, 2013

Freaking out!

I don't know what the f*** is wrong with me. I'm currently up to 229.8 pounds. This is way too close to 230 for comfort. I'm super pissed off. I don't understand why I'm having so much trouble keeping my eating under control. And I don't know where my exercise drive went. This has to stop! My goal was to get down under 200 pounds before I went to Phish this year. Time to brainstorm and get a handle on this.
1. I've been working a lot of hours
2. I've been sleeping less
3. Since I'm tired I think I'm eating more

Food issues
It is probably not coincidence that I'm up in weight and have been eating lots of salsa and chips.  Between the salt and the amount I'm eating I probably have some water weight going on. 
I ran out of my flavored water.
I've become bored with my shakes.
I tend to be over zealous with cheese. 
I'm not loving salads lately. 
I'm focusing too much on fruit and not enough on veggies.

Exercise
Being tired and working so much isn't giving me motivation to exercise. 

Mentality
I'm sad that my boyfriend and I might not work out. Even if we're ok right now, my talk with a counselor and talks with friends worry me and stress me out. 
I'm working a ton because I like money and need to pay my grandma back. 
Over doing it at work and not sleeping enough are sabotaging my small efforts. 
Lots of different foods right now. 
I may have screwed up my metabolism a bit when I left for 9 days. 

So, starting tomorrow I'm doing things differently.  Back to semester start habits.

1700 cals. Zombies, Run! Nearly every day. Or swim.  Exercise class 1 to 2 Times per Week.

I wish all this wasn't so damn hard.  :(

Saturday, May 25, 2013

Whew! That was one long haul....

I did it! I graduated with my Bachelor's!  But I'd be lying if I didn't say that my health and fitness goals took quite the blow.  I'm up about 8lbs from where I was before school just kicked me in the groin and didn't let me stand back up again.  I tried, off and on each week, to get back into my running routine.  I miss it!  I really do! I never thought I'd say that in my entire life.

Currently, I'm murdering myself with work to pay off school, and I may be starting a new job soon.  I'm thinking with the new job, I may have better flexibility in my schedule to pick up hours for extra cash, while making time to focus on my goal of getting down to 163ish lbs.  I don't have a particular date set to getting there, but then, it's never worked for me in the past to put such a goal on myself.  I was actually really excited to see that for the first time in my life, I had set a goal, without thinking about it too deeply and didn't place a number on the end date.  My current goal is for the next 60 days I will:

  1. Keep my calories within check, while focusing on eating more nutritious food
  2. Workout daily, either walking, Zombies, Run, or swimming...attempting 13,000 steps per day per my fitbit counter
  3. Drink 2-4 bottles of water
  4. Get adequate sleep

But there is another thing weighing on me lately that I'm not sure I'm ready to tackle.  Many of my friends are quitting smoking.  I know I should too, but it's my one (very) bad vice.  I hope that my new job (keep your fingers crossed that I get it) will assist me in cutting back.  I would like it if I only used it on the occasional social situation, like my boyfriend does.  But I think I will focus more on that when that time comes.

For now, I'm reading a lot, books for fun, health magazines, crafting magazines, and having some fun with Pinterest.  I'm also exploring foods to be healthier and working on planting a garden.  My seedlings have taken off ok.  May buy a few plants to supplement. 

One last note, that I hope I don't get in trouble for, but no one reads this thing anyway.  I'm very worried about someone close to me and their health.  I know she is attempting to work on her issues with a therapist but I fear her physical health is really going to suffer.  I also hope she gets off the medication she is on.  She seems alien currently, and we are butting heads a lot.  Anyway, I guess my point is, I wish her well and hope she can get better before she really hurts herself.  I know I'm being vague.  But I have to be for now.  Wish me luck on the new phase (I know there are always a million of them).

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Checking my tracking...

I noticed that I was eating fairly normal 200 to 400 calorie meals of things I really like (chinese food, my breakfast shakes, tacos, etc) when I began losing weight at the beginning of the semester.  I was logging fairly carefully and was full invested in my workouts.  I had a few snacks a day that were 100 to 300 calories.  I averaged between 1100 and 1300 calories per day (this is taking into account exercise).  I felt really good then.
I really need to get organized and get back on track.  I think I need some distance from a few people too. :(

Thursday, March 7, 2013

Interesting day

I guess I just wanted to talk about how today went. Um, I went to school and decided that I didn't really feel like being at school so I left. And I took my dog to the dog park. I've been really stressed out about school. And I've been really stressed out about my relationship with Ryan.

I guess I'm just really frustrated. I'm working on my 2 year plan and it just seems to be taking forever and the funny thing is I'm nearly done with school. Actually I'm supposed to graduate this semester. So when I graduate that part of my 2 year plan will be done . Which brings me to the other parts of my 2 year plan that I'm working on.

I I need to get my finances in order. So soon I will be doing my exit counseling for my student loans and I have a lot to do before school is done. I need to take the GRE, get at least a 3.0 GPA , and then I need to attempt to get into grad school in Milwaukee.

If everything goes as planned I will start school again next spring. Now would be a good time for Ryan to propose however he's not ready. This is a very frustrating to me. I think it is affecting my eating. Lately I've been so busy I haven't had time to work out like I would want to. I'm still trying to figure out how to balance everything after my grandpa passed away a few weeks ago.

This past week I've done really well with making it to the gym up until today and yesterday, but I'm still not doing great with my eating habits. I've been doing better than I used to I think. I've only had 1 day where I went over 2000 calories. I walk a lot and I was really blessed to get  a fit bit from my co workers for my birthday. I really invested my money into getting good workout clothes and I've gotten several pairs of Barefoot Technology shoes. I'm currently bidding on another pair on eBay. I really love the pace glove shoes. And I've been keeping up with zombies run to a degree.

So, all in all things are going pretty well it could be worse. I just wish things would go a little faster right now. I wish Ryan was ready but then I'm not ready. I really want to be at my goal weight when he proposes. I'm going to keep working towards that and hopefully before summer hits I'll be much closer to where I want to be .

Phish tour shall be announced soon and when it is I would really like it if I could go on tour and be comfortable in the clothes I wear. I think it would be really exciting is Ryan family decides that he is going to propose at that point in time. As it is, his best friend is planning to propose to his boyfriend on tour.

Anyway I'll keep you all posted on what happens next and I will put up a new video soon. Have a great day!

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Odd thought...

It always seems that when people talk about someone who's "lost a lot of weight" the story always comes second hand.

What I mean by this is, I, personally, have never witnessed someone be overweight and get down to goal.  Is this because I'm from Wisconsin? Maybe it's due to my choice to seclude myself often; I work my one job and attend school making few long term relationships. 

I'm not sure. It just seems odd that the people I know that have lost weight, did it away from me.  They weren't in my sight on a daily basis.

I want to BE that person.  The person that makes goal and people, my co-workers, boyfriend, family, etc, watch it happen. 

On another note....11+ miles on Zombie Run this week and I feel pretty awesome!

To continuing towards goal!

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

It's the starting of a brand new year....

So, it is now Wednesday, January 2nd, 2013. There was no Zombie Apocalypse, life has continued on as normal. SO, since we know we'll probably have some time before the next end-the-world scenario comes up, I'm back to focusing on that two year goal of mine...and this is gonna be a doozy. In an attempt to finish school and move on with my life, I will be taking 18 credits this semester, along with working full-time. I'm not looking forward to this, but I am looking forward to getting done.

 Ah hell, lets break it down into the four(?) areas I did last time and what my short term goal is to finish this thing up.

School:
 I'm taking 18 credits. It will be hell. It will also structure my time and keep me out of trouble. Then I graduate in May, hopefully with a 3.0 GPA. Then I'll take the next six months to put some cash aside, take the GRE and apply to Grad School. Wish me LOTS of luck... 

Finances:
I'm done with my student loans. Can't take any more out til I get into Graduate School, so I have to pay $3,600 for tuition and then pay about $400 for books, unless I can swing it with some older additions. To do this I've had to take a loan out on my car, and I took an additional loan out that will get paid back to me at the end of January. My plan is to do payments like I did last time, and use my tax return to blow a good chunk of tuition out. I've found that with my supplementary loans helping me, I've been able to afford to go to school and pay in installments. So, we're doing ok. I'm just going to work harder to budget using MINT.com and we'll continue down this nifty little path. 

Weightloss:
 I've been holding steady. Annoyingly. Agonizingly. Disappointingly. But, between school, my finances, and my very annoying, negative boyfriend, we're making another go of this. I will continue to use myfitnesspal and have added on Zombies! Run! 5K program. I'm currently only on day two, but this feels like something I can stick to. Perhaps this was the Zombie Apocalypse I was waiting for (life changing? Yes. Could be...)Beyond this, as a kickstart to a year of meeting my goals (13 is one of my fave numbers so better be now!) I'm doing a Suero Viv cleanse. My grandmother has given me the 3 days worth of Suero Viv, and when I'm done with this 3 day fasting exercise, I'm planning to buy some books on raw food and get back on that band-wagon. My friend Becca is doing a 60 day fast using Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead as her inspiration. Same basic principal with all of these. Suero Viv is just ready made for me to use and my grandmother has done very very well losing weight on it. I'm also going back to the gym after work with my co-worker starting Wednesday. Lastly, due to the extreme strain and stress of finances and school, I won't have time to sit and eat food. I'll literally be running from class to class and then to work every day. My days off will consist of some recovery and lots of studying. But I can just imagine myself in May, getting ready for graduation, and I'm a whole new person.

 Relationships:
 This last year, I have gained some truly great friends, and my life couldn't be more satisfying in this respect. My partner and I are doing well for all intents and purposes. I finally got a "love" statement out of him, and I'm doing fairly well with keeping up on housework and making progress in other "crafty" areas of my life. So I just hope that maybe after graduation, when I'm this "new" person, that then he'll give me that circular metal think I'm so hoping for. Also, here is to a year with more Phish shows and hopefully more musical presences in my life.

 ONWARD, HO!